Though India is on the treadmill of progress and development and words like economy, growth, industry, plans, jobs and bla!! Bla!!! Are in charcha ……I wonder when will the scenario of our arrange marriage would change, even apps or technology needs to be upgraded after a lapse of time so why not our way of approaching to “beta ye hai wo jiske sath tujhe is jalim duniya ka samna krna hai!!!”
I miss that proposal system which I grew up looking at (of course!! Not in reality but in movies and telly soaps which has a major share in building up my thought process and setting up my expectations) among the Indian middle class families….why is it that no one feels bored after being the part of same idiotic, show-off drama which is repeated by every generation with no upgrade or update or alteration to it.
So here’s what happen in India….boy’s family comes to girls home with all his relatives who have plenty of time to waste wearing a fixed smile. The girl becomes the show piece accomplished with one of best outfit and make-up and the guy is then there in market ready to be sold out with a fare price that will fill his house and life with gifts and luxury and of course comfort that he may get all by himself some time near his retirement time.
so during the betting hours, the girl needs to decide of giving a red or green signal to her family so to make a quick decision about where will this train of “marriage” will head towards……….BTW this all happens in around 15 minutes- without wasting time you see!!…. 😀
And in these 15 minutes the girl is expected to think if she would be okay in spending her next 50-60 years with this cage-man, the considerable factors available to her will be
- Height- If he’s tall, good enough as heels would be in the shopping list and if not- much better- money saved!!!
- Weight- If He’s overweight….oops!!! I mean healthy (coz He’s A GUY!!!- Living MALE SPERM!!!!! And so We don’t have the right to judge him anyway) which makes this the observation as CHUBBY and khate pite ghar ka hai bnda!!!
- Skin Completion- If he reminds you the different dairy products (Panner, milk, ice-cream) or reminds the list of natural remedies where he should be dumped into a pool of Turmeric and honey (have no guarantee if this would even work)…….
- How is voice is like- as in his voices is more like a cow or crow!!!!!………(Pretty obvious it would be like a man!!
But then what else do you have to judge him…….
Sorry!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I forgot the package he earns per year- a very important factor which the guys family will not forget as that plays an important role in fixing up the selling price…… 😀
Now here comes the idiotic part everyone in room knows no one is going to eat or drink anything but still the notion of “Aatithi devo bhav!!!” will be all over the place, which will end up being the snacks for the host family after the guests leaves.
The whole shot-off drama is actually practised so to let people know “how socialise people we are” where instead of thinking or caring if the would-be-wife/husband is buying any of it.
Guys in India these days have expressed to marry an educated girl who would love to let her degrees fade away in order to receive the higher studies of being a full time made, who over the years becomes the ultimate reason for every wrong thing happening in the world where the man-of-the-house (in a decent sarcastic manner!!!!) has no role to play in being responsible in any way.
In a recent study it’s been found that if any couple thinks of being parents and wants a healthy baby, more than the mother would-be-father needs to quit smoking, drinking and should start working out regularly as the sperm do have an important role which results in the health of the baby………but all the restrictions are still laid on the woman, even the “ so any good news…..??” type irritating questions are to be answered by the female as if the reason of her existence is not to teach the lessons she had learnt to the next generation (as we live long then our reproductive age!!) but to help growing population of the country and ofcourse helping the family (MALE”S family!!) name alive as if life will perish if you thought of anything else like adopting a kid or being a part of some cause and so on…
The society would need more 100 years to actually start practising the equality concept where women are no less than any man which brings one to choose from staying as women and start nodding your head to the most well guy (as per unknown people around!) or to opt for a surgery (sex changing one!).
After rolling out n number of years, i am again on the same place with a few grown up perceptions and ideologies which knows about the existence of the grey area in life now. From searching the alphabets in the keyboard to growing faster in typing to trying to be sorry after i do a blunder. Eventually, from who cares to OMG! i am being noticed by all possible genders existing in the universe.
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